communications and healthy boundaries. The building of trust through respectful communication is a skill that people can learn. Healthy boundaries make it possible for people to feel self empowered and at the same time to be vulnerable to share their pain, their needs and their wants. Where healthy boundaries are absent, fear of rejection, being misunderstood or being hurt again, keeps people separated.

Healthy Boundaries and Mirrors
     Healthy boundaries result from what we learn in our families of origin. Intrusive, alcoholic, or abusive parents frequently invade the fragile boundaries of their children. These children grow up without the basic tools to achieve intimacy and often find themselves instead in enmeshed relationships. Fortunately, boundaries and the self-empowerment that comes with them can be learned, even by adults.
     Relationships can be mirrors, reflecting back to us our greatest strengths. We discover our ability to love, to be tender, and to empathize with another person without judging. Relationships can also bring out our deepest wounds. These wounds can be experienced as fear, jealousy, depression or aloneness. Partners  may feel angry, upset or  hopeless. If we look deeper we find that these
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